Hi everyone 🙂 At previous meetings we have discussed the various anxious feelings that are encountered by an approaching anniversary. I found an online article that addresses, albeit impersonally, some of the feelings that many of us experience and I wanted to share. The highlights are:
APA offers the following coping strategies to help people through traumatic anniversaries:
Recognize and acknowledge feelings you may experience. Understand that your feelings are part of the recovery process.
Find healthy ways to cope with your distress. Share memories and feelings with someone you trust or just spend time with friends and family. Activities that allow your mind to focus on something other than these memories are a good coping strategy for some people. Contemplative activities like reading, thinking or just taking a walk are also a good approach.
Avoid reactions that become part of the problem such as drinking or using drugs.
Engage in an activity that honors lost loved ones. You may want to plant a tree in their memory, make a donation to their favorite charity, participate in activities your loved one would have enjoyed or share happy memories with others. Consider volunteering; you may find that helping others actually helps you.
Use your support system. Reach out to friends and family. Don’t isolate yourself.
To read the entire article, go to the following website: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/anniversary.aspx
A few weeks ago Heather Egeland, Jennifer Hammer, and Paula Reed sat down with a reporter from Newtown, CT. He was working on a story called “Lessons from Columbine” they covered a variety of tough subjects ranging from how to move forward, what to do with the school etc… He also met with a few other people in our Rebel family. Check out the rest of this blog to see the week long series.
Part I Interview with Frank DeAngelis
The first interview with Frank DeAngelis aired 2-4-2013. I am posting the link on here so that you can all watch it if you want. I will post the links each day so that you are able to see the whole story.
Part II Interview with Parents and Survivors
Eyewitness News sat down with everyone from the parents of survivors and victims to the teachers who were inside Columbine High School during the shootings to the principal and law enforcement.
Part III Interview with The Rebels Project
Interviews with Paula Reed, Jennifer Hammer, and Heather Egeland about the healing process and how counseling is a process that takes many years.
Part IV Interview with First Responders
Something we have seen since Columbine is the First Responders (Police, Paramedics, ER Doctors) are often forgotten. People concentrate on the victims so much that they don’t realize that the First Responders are affected by the tragedy and carry what they saw for the rest of their lives.
How much do we really know about PTSD? Here is what we all already know…
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can be an extremely debilitating condition that can occur after exposure to a terrifying event or ordeal in which grave physical harm occurred or was threatened.
But somethings that you may not know are…
- People can often smell things related to their trauma even in their nightmares. It can also cause physical health problems. Some feel pain from injuries they no longer have.
- The symptoms of PTSD can be very disruptive. You may feel constantly on edge or as if danger is lurking around every corner. You may feel cut-off from people and your own feelings. You may have difficulties concentrating or find that you get angry at the drop of a hat.
- PTSD can develop at any age, including in childhood. Symptoms typically begin within 3 months of a traumatic event, although occasionally they do not begin until years later. Once PTSD occurs, the severity and duration of the illness varies. Some people recover within 6 months, while others suffer much longer.
Here are some things that might help you figure out whats going on…
Symptoms of PTSD fall into three main categories:
- 1. Repeated “reliving” of the event, which disturbs day-to-day activity
- Flashback episodes, where the event seems to be happening again and again
- Recurrent distressing memories of the event
- Repeated dreams of the event
- Physical reactions to situations that remind you of the traumatic event
- 2. Avoidance
- Emotional “numbing,” or feeling as though you dont care about anything
- Feelings of detachment
- Inability to remember important aspects of the trauma
- Lack of interest in normal activities
- Less expression of moods
- Staying away from places, people, or objects that remind you of the event
- Sense of having no future
- 3. Arousal
- Difficulty concentrating
- Exaggerated response to things that startle you
- Excess awareness (hypervigilance)
- Irritability or outbursts of anger
- Sleeping difficulties
You also might feel a sense of guilt about the event (including “survivor guilt”), and the following symptoms, which are typical of anxiety, stress, and tension:
- Agitation, or excitability
- Feeling your heart beat in your chest (palpitations)
A group of survivors of the Columbine High School shooting are teaming up to help survivors of the Aurora theater tragedy by setting up local meetings to offer support and counseling.
“We want them to know that they’re not alone and we want to be a listening ear for them, because we’ve been through it,” said Heather Egeland, a Columbine survivor and one of the founders of The Rebels Project.
The group has hosted two meetings, hosting survivors of the shooting, and sharing their different experiences.
“One of the biggest things that we’ve discovered is that when Columbine happened, we were just kind of all together and we had a family,” said Jennifer Hammer. “But these guys didn’t have one, they were just basically strangers — So we want to reach out and be their family.”
“Its something none of these people should’ve gone through,” said Andrea Whitt, whose two daughters were both at the Century Theater during the shooting.
“They are just having a little trouble adjusting and I thought it would be nice for them to talk to someone who went through something similar at the same age,” said Whitt. “It’s helped me as well, I’ve been able to ask them what I should do to help my daughters and what I shouldn’t do.”
The next meeting, which is also open to the public, is October 24th.